Monday, October 11, 2010

What are your expectations?

As a woman what are your expectations from a man? Do you expect him to financially support you and protect you physically? What about your emotional and spiritual needs? Is it important for him to protect your heart and virtue as well as your body? The answer is yes. Today we expect so little from men when they expect so much from us. Why do we constantly lower our expectations when men’s appear to increase? As women we go to work for 40 plus hours a week, come home and take care of the children, clean the house, and satisfy our man’s sexual needs all while looking sexy. At the same time we are begging our men to take out the trash, fix the leaky faucet, and bathe the child for bed, but we are not supposed to “nag” him as soon as he get home from work or while his favorite tea, (all of them) are playing on ESPN. Next time you enter or exit a relationship think about what your expectations are. Has this man shown you that he is willing to meet those expectations? This is not to “bash” men; it is to give women something to think about. What do you expect of yourself in a relationship? Think about what you want to give as well as what you wish to receive. Work on you first and the rest will fall into place. Do not change who you are because the real you can only hide for so long. If you chill in sweats with no makeup on the weekend then let your man see that. If you do not like to share your favorite food, then let your man see that. Marilyn Monroe said it best, “I`m selfish, impatient, and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle, but if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best”.

1 comment:

  1. I've always loved that quote by Marilyn Monroe ! Great post ! It's actually a good idea to consider each person's expectations. Even if they forgot to talk about it at the beginning of the relationship, this is a talk they could have at any point in the relationship because it could instantly clear up problems. Many times we have expectations and they remain unknown to our partner. This is our fault because no one is a mind-reader. I agree with you when you say women have lowered their expectations. It's time we demand what we give and give what we demand. Anything less doesn't fit Aissa's relationship rights! Great post !